Sunday Morning

Today I got up before anyone else. On a Sunday. When I could have slept in. Why you ask? I will tell you and the answer is very simple.

I have a friend who has done this for many years, and I think I need to take a page from her book. To rise before the rest of the house, simply so that I may have a few minutes to myself. That’s it, that’s all. Just a simple selfish answer: ME time.

There is a saying, “When mom is happy, the whole family is happy”. Both my husband and I agree with this saying 100% and since the beginning of 2013, I have really felt like I’ve had no time for me. Even a few minutes can mean a world of difference. Last week when we were dealing with colds, flu, runny noses, medicines and sleepless nights, my dear husband Dean even  offered me a chance to just drive to town to get a Timmies! For my fellow rural friends, you understand what that means. You don’t just do that! It’s gas, time, wear n tear on the vehicle, and a waste of a trip to town. Even though I did not go, I fully appreciated his understanding. I was tired and stretched thin, I needed a bit of space and a few normal minutes for me.

So this is my solution. Get up before everyone else and take 15mins to do something I want to do. It can be simple as reading a book, blogging, making my fav breakfast, or a project I want to start. It has worked for others I know, and I’m hoping that if I get a few minutes for me in the beginning of the day, it will start my day off right, and make me a happy Mom.

A happy Mom, a happy husband, happy Dad, happy Deanna, happy Caitlin and hopefully a Happy Conner man! Lets test it out this week, and see how it goes. So far this Sunday morning has been very productive and I feel pretty good. So that is a great start.

Enjoy your Sunday Morning, I already have!!

Christmas 2012

Well I finally feel like it’s  Christmas time. The Tree is up, the carols are playing in the background, Christmas gifts are being wrapped, and Family gatherings have begun. This past weekend we spent two wonderful days with family. Good food, good people,good news and great memories.

As I have gotten older, I really cherish that part of Christmas. The gathering’s, the family traditions, the giving. Yes, I really enjoy finding a great gift and giving more then receiving. I am in the process of trying to teach my eldest daughter just that. And I am also learning that giving does not mean spending lots of money. Sometimes a simple homemade gift or baking is just as nice, if not better, cause it was made with love.  Giving of our time is also a wonderful thing, like some of my family did last week. We helped sort Shoeboxes at the Wearhouse in Calgary for Samaritan’s Purse. Giving our time to this charity felt wonderful, it certainly helped put me in the Christmas mood.

This Christmas will be a first for our baby boy, so that’s always exciting. This year we get to share the joy with our growing family and Christmas with kids is very joyful. It’s the joy in their eyes I look forward to on Christmas morning. Being able to spend the day with my Family, just like I did with my own family as a kid,  means so much to me and this year is special again. I hope that I can pass on the importance of family to my own children.

Now I’ll admit that this time of year brings some stress too. Busy-ness, Sickness, Finances, End of the year just to name a few. Busy-nes; Trying to fit everything in, visiting and shopping, baking, decorating etc… can get a bit hectic. So trying to slow things down and enjoy the moments helps. This year for us seems more relaxed and I will enjoy that I think. It will allow us to think about what Christmas is really all about and try to bring that out more. Sickness; Winter is flu season, and our house has had it twice. It’s hard to get things done when you are tired and cant stop sneezing from that silly cold. My Poor Husband.  Finances; I don’t think I need to say much about this one, but that every year I try to spend less on gifts. Still it can be a stressful time on your bank account. End of Year; Christmas means the year is almost done, and a new one around the corner. Sometimes that is good, sometimes it is bad. I lately have been thinking about all the things that didn’t get done this year, and how nice it would be to do one more project before 2013 rolls around. Oh well, so instead I’ll focus on Christmas 2012. For the next two weeks, I’m going to go easy on my self, do what I can, and just enjoy what the season has to bring.  Family Dinners, visit’s with friends, parties and Christmas Concerts. It’s going to be a wonderful Christmas season.

Plus, I’ve perfected my crockpot yam recipe, and my mom has requested it for Family Christmas. That’s really neat. Boy I’ve come along way this year. Here’s to a Merry Christmas to everyone and to growth and Joy in 2013.  May God bless your home and your heart. From all of Us here at the Duquette house.

How Mama Got Her Groove Back

Today is Sunday, the end of a week or the beginning of a new week, depending on your perspective. Today I looked around my house and thought, How did it get like this? I have the biggest laundry pile I have ever seen; to the point I stood and starred at it for a full 2 minutes thinking “where do I begin?” The girls room has exploded with stuffed animals yet again, the dishes are always waiting, the cradle still needs to be taken apart and stored, piles of papers for the “office” sit on top my filing cabinet, and our basement is no closer to being finished then it was in spring. Oh yes to me the little piles of stuff are starting to feel overwhelming. Now my house is NO WHERE NEAR close to an episode of Hoarders, but I feel like I need to take control again and get my mommy groove back.

For a while there, I was Domestic Diva, Crockpot dinners, laundry and dishes everyday, time to blog, time to shower (yes you read that right. lol) I had time to sew a few things and started making some Christmas presents. But then I got hit with a double wammy; Holidays.  We all love going on holidays, getting away and taking a vacation, but in the back of our mind a little voice tries to remind you how it works. First there is the pre-holiday laundry, then the packing, the race around the house to make sure you have not forgot everything, then the mad clean before you leave so as not to come home to a dirty house. Then you enjoy the holiday, and when it’s over……. then the unpacking, and the post-holiday laundry. And then someone gets sick and soon the whole house has the sniffles, and the laundry starts all over again. Oh if I could hire someone who only did my laundry, I’d have millions of more hours in my week. I had gotten a pretty good handle on it once by making sure to do one load a day. I need to get back into that groove again, to take control of the Mt.Everest I have in my basement.

Of course I need to give myself some credit. I was sick too this past week and that really takes it out of you. Plus having extra kids around, and like I said the post-holiday unpacking and laundry. Also, and a big Also, is I need to remind my self that just 7 months ago I had a little baby boy, and he has been the center of my world. He is little and he still needs his Mom. Although he has almost weened himself from nursing, he still wants Moms attention and we are working on getting him to sleep through the night again. He has been more demanding then my girls were.  He was sleeping 8hours through the night, but since his first cold he hasn’t been a good sleeper. Which in turn means mom doesn’t get much rest either. Now all Moms have learned to function on limited sleep, but let me tell you, we are not nearly as productive or motivated on 5hrs of rest.

So lets summarize: My house looks out of control, my family was on holidays, then we were sick, my baby is not sleeping through the night, Mom is tired, Mom has low motivation, laundry pile continues to grow, and then I wake up and think….. where did my groove go? How do I get it back? How can I take control and feel good about my house again? Unlike the movie, I do not think a trip to a tropical area and a cute pool boy is the answer here ; )  I am more of the mind set of slow and steady, baby steps, one step at a time. So I’ll start by making a dent in the laundry, finding the floor in the girls room, and making soup for supper tomorrow. Then maybe I’ll feel better about myself again, that yes I can do this as I did before. I can be the Mom and wife I want to be, I just lost my groove, and now I need to find it again.

You know, I wonder, do you think there is a chance my groove is hiding under my pile of laundry????? I’m gonna find out!!!!

Rock-a-bye-baby

If I was a morning coffee drinker, today would be the morning I pour myself an extra cup of Joe.

It’s easy to see how important your role as a parent is at 3 O’clock in the morning, in the rocking chair, with a sick child. Yes I have a baby with a cold. And he got it from my daughter, who is also coughing a bit still and asked to snuggle. She settled for a hug and a tuck-me-in, as I was feeding the baby. Poor girl, poor baby, poor me. I understant how important it is to hold a sick child in the night, I still remember cuddling with my mom in the middle of the night with a fever as a young girl, but it is also hard to not feel frustrated for yourself too hey? I thought to my self at 2am and then again at 3am…. why is it still so early? I still have the whole night to get through. And then it was 5am, okay so I got 2hours sleep, feed the baby again, go back to sleep, and then Caitlin is at my bed at 6:30am asking for a drink. Well I’ve got to go to the bathroom, Caitlin settles for some water, and I make my self a hot honey/lemon drink.

I feel a bit like a robot, and the worst part is, I haven’t had the cold yet. I can feel it coming. I know the best thing for a cold is rest, so maybe with a stroke of luck the girls can play outside this afternoon and I can have a nap. My hubby is head deep in Harvest, and will be trying to fix his combine today. So I’m on my own for now,  But I’ll survive.  I’m going to finish my warm drink, cover Conner with a blanket, find the humidifier, and see if I can snuggle up to my hubby for another hour or so, before today really begins.