World Doula Week has begun, and I’ve been a very busy Doula.
– Helped two moms with their special deliveries
– Had an article in the newspaper
– Attended local Mom’s groups to promote Doulas
– Volunteered at the Olds Location for Central Alberta Pregnancy Care Center
– Helped Organized more Q&A’s events in Olds, and one in Red Deer.
It’s been a really good month here for me even if the weather has been sub-par. I really wish the sun would melt all the snow. I feel like I’ve accomplished much and am blazing the right trail this time in my life. I hope it continues, And Happy World Doula Week to you from Me.
What a wonderful start to my celebration of what I do.
World Doula Week is here and I’ve been a very busy little bee, “flying” from this place to another, sharing information about what a Doula is and how they can make a positive change in childbirth. I have been very pleased with the response from people and am hopeful that the interest will continue to grow so we can build a better birthing future for our own children by learning from our past. The power of women supporting women has so much strength.
I feel like a small piece of a puzzle that no-one quite knows what the beautiful picture will turn out to look like yet. Slowly pieces of the puzzle are falling into place and coming together to build something bigger. Each birth I attend I learn something new and my experience grows. I become a brighter and more colorful piece of the puzzle and want to learn more and more.
Being a Doula is a calling for me, and I’m recognizing that more and more as each birth comes. I see strengths in my past that I now can use to my full potential, understanding how my chameleon personality works perfectly into the role of a Doula. I can mold my services to the needs of my clients for bigger benefits to them, and it doesn’t feel like work. Rather it is a natural passion that fills me with joy and bliss,and like Joesph Campbell’s quote “Follow your bliss, and the universe will open doors where there were only walls”, I am looking for those doors to appear with hope and eagerness.
It’s been a busy week so far. My mom duties have been many and it seems it will get busier before it gets better.
This morning I was getting ready for the day, making a mental list in my head of all the things I needed to do today, the people I needed to call, the things I need to pack, the schedule for the day when a simple thought popped into my head as I looked at my self in the mirror.
I am a Woman too.
This week I have definitely forgotten that. I am not only a Mom,or a friend or even only a wife, but I am a woman too. A woman who wants to feel beautiful, to have the time to do her hair and feel good when she looks in the mirror. But mostly I am women who wants to be desired, not just as a wife who wants her husbands affection, but as a woman who longs for a mans touch, her mans touch. I had forgotten that woman was inside of me and I’m sure sometimes that man inside my husband gets bogged down by life too.
I want all Mom’s to remember that woman, that the goddess still exists inside, even when there are days you can not find the time to brush your teeth for all the things your children need. When life gets so busy your duties as a Mom, wife,employee seem to consume your life, just acknowledge that she is there…. waiting… patiently. And there will come a time when you can channel that woman and bring the goddess out.
Today I get to jump back on the horse per say, and bring back a role I have not had for a while. I think the entertainer in me is very excited. The practical part of me is worried if I can do it again, but as I complied my music cd, the music called to me. Yes it’s time to SLOWLY get back to Bellydancing. After almost two years away due to my pregnancy and birth of my third child, I am really to take on that role again in a small way.
I was (and still am) a professional bellydancer, part of a troupe and have danced at many events. Most of all I miss the ladies who I consider my dance family, and I look forward to seeing them again soon. But I do have to take it slow. It is a big time commitment and with three kids I found I needed to be home more, my husband needed me home more, and I’ve learned that I need to make sure I don’t over commit. That all being said, about a month ago I really missed Dance; The music, the ladies, the costumes, the exercise and the way it made me feel to perform, so it was time to figure out how to make time for a little dance.
Tonight I get the honor of filling in for my mentor at her regular gig, dancing at the local restaurant to bring smiles to the local patrons. I’ve done it before and am happy to do it again. A small way to get my feet wet again, and in time I will be able to do more of the dance I love and enjoy so much.
All right ladies, here is my rant for today. I can be many things, play many roles, and where many hats. I even like to think once and a while I’m really good, but being a cook is not something I’m passionate about. Sure I enjoy baking and cooking a great recipe, but lets be honest, being a mom and wife requires more then just the occasional meal.
The thing all women need to be told if they are to become moms is this…. your day revolves around food. First its what to feed them for breakfast, what to pack in their lunch, and what to pull out to make supper. When and where to buy the cheapest groceries for the food, and are they getting enough food. Then cleaning all the dishes you cooked and ate the food in. If your nursing are you eating enough food to feed your baby, and when will they wake up again to eat…. It is a never ending thing with a family.
This week I am going to a meal prep workshop with a friend, hopefully it will inspire my creativity again about food, cause boy is it a big part of my life these days.
I think more and more people are learning what a Doula is, but for some it’s still an unknown. We are trained, we are experienced, we are passionate, but we are somewhere in between the nurse and a midwife. Nurturing, caring, compassionate, knowledgeable, but we do not perform clinical tasks. That is something different….a Montrice… You can look that up if you like. A Doula provides emotional, mental and physical support that the other healthcare workers may not have time for.
Below I have provided a link to a website with a great article titled: What is the difference between a doula and other healthcare providers? Its from New Beginnings Doula Training out of the US.
When I discovered the Doula program, I thought it might be something that would fit for me. I realized through out my third pregnancy how passionate I was about the concept of helping other women feel empowered through their birth experiences. This was a role that I also felt very comfortable in rather quickly and it didn’t scare me. That’s what happens when you do something you love and are passionate about. It’s not work at all. When I took my course I was so excited through out the weekend, never did I feel tired or overwhelmed or scared or bored, I just couldn’t wait to learn more, and I still find my-self feeling the same way. I want to expand and grow in my knowledge and the services I provide to help people.
Doing something I love and that works with my life style is truly rewarding, but I wasn’t aware of the other rewards it would bring.
Being there during the moments a couple become a family is the most amazing experience. It is a privilege and an honour and it warms my heart.
Recently one of my Clients had this to say….
You truly are a great doula my dear….an angel.
Christa was a terrific doula! She not only helped me, but helped out my fiance Jason and my mom by answering questions they had. If it weren’t for her helping me focus on my breathing and reassuring everyone along the way, I’m sure my experience would have been not so great. She is amazing! After all, she did help out another mommy the day before and I’m sure she was exhausted, but very, very strong! Yay for doulas!!!
Thank you Amberly. It brings joy to my heart to read things like that, for that is the true reason I love being a Doula so much and am glad my life has lead me down this path. That is all the reward I need : )
I am excited that my life has lead me down this path.
I am excited to be helping women in their own birth journeys,
And this week I’m going to celebrate!
I know this blog is more for personal writing then business, but this week I’m going to use this blog to celebrate my role as a Doula. I want to help educate, inform and get the word out about what Doulas do, and the benefits of having a Doula no matter what type of birth you have.
So what is a Doula?
n –DOULA: A women experienced in childbirth who supports theMother and Her Partnerboth physically & emotionally before, during and after childbirth.
A Doula does not replace a Doctor or Midwife, we do not perform medical or clinical tasks, rather we work with the medical community and help the parents make their wishes known, protecting their space to have the best birth possible.
A Doula is about support. They are about education and information. They have knowledge and experience and want to help guide you to have the birth you want. I’m going to repeat that again….. THE BIRTH YOU WANT! It’s not about me, it’s about the parents and their baby and their birth experience. A good Doula can support all births and birth choices, but a good Doula also helps educate about those choices, so parents can make informed decisions. Recently I read a book that explained it like this: “A Doula is like the sherpa that guides people up Mt. Everest. You clearly walk to the top on your own two feet, but it sure is nice to have a guide that knows the trail, the tricks and can support your endeavor.” Experienced Doula – Cassaundra Jah
And this is my goal as a Doula to help guide and to support ALL women, in ALL types of labour. Period!
I hope you will enjoy celebrating World Doula Week with me. I have met with three clients these past few weeks and am so happy to be working in my passion. The joy I get talking to these families and knowing they have asked me to be a part of something so special. It truly is an Honour, a Blessing and a privilege.
Here is a link to a wonderfully written blog that speaks of the powerful transformation that takes place when your first born arrives into this world. I don’t usually talk about topics like this, but this blog hit a home run for me.
Recently I came across a letter I had written to myself in early 2005. As I read it, silent tears ran down my face. It was a reminder of a sad time, a time of mourning and loss, and yet I had been given so much. But as I read my own words, my tears turned from sorrow to joy. How is it that just 8 years ago I was soo far away and now I have discovered a passion for birth; that I want to make a career out of helping other women make the beautiful transition into motherhood?? Wow I am truly blessed to have come so far. And I could not have done it without my husband. He was and still is my rock. He was always there and supported me as I transitioned into my role as a mother. And now I see the joy in his eyes as I pursue being a Doula. His support is strong.
Now I will probably never share my own letter, but this lady’s blog mimics my letter. She shared those things most women hardly dare to think and it is wonderfully written. Thank you Renegade Mother, for sharing this with us. I believe all women should read this to know they are not alone, and it is okay to grieve for you loss in a time of great joy. Thank you so much. I feel like a part of me has healed even more after reading this. Click on the link Below.
Today I went crazy….. On pintrest that is. I officially love pintrest. I can pin now, read later, and have resources available at my fingertips ready for whatever role I’m in. It combines things I like to do, like organizing, cute ideas, and sharing passions with others. Yeah pintrest.