Temperature Changes

Well after the most wonderful and relaxing week on sandy beaches in Mexico, we flew home just in time to get home and hunker down before the snow hit. We turned up the furnace and made soup for lunch while the snow blew all day. With a difference of almost 60degrees I am very proud of my husband for bundling up and going out in the storm to look after his cows. Me and the kids, we stayed in our PJ’s ALL day.

Our week in Mexico was so relaxing and quiet and just what we both needed. We slept the first night for 15hrs straight… no word of a lie. We were celebrating our 10years of marriage, yet everywhere we went people asked and called us Honeymooners… So that was nice.

We were ready to come home on Sunday and see our kids, afterall it was our oldest daughters Birthday and she’s not so little anymore. And as happy as we were to see our kids, I couldn’t help but wish we were still back in Mexico, especially when I woke up the next morning to see knee high drifts in front of my garage, and blowing snow so we couldn’t see the end of the driveway. Sigh….. Mexico was so lush and Warm… I hate being cold, but more than that even though I feel rested and that my husband and I have connected again, I don’t really feel rejuvenated the way I had hoped. When the reality of house and kids and cooking and cleaning hit me Monday morning it sucked my energy and fogged my brain. Maybe it was just everything all at once, snow, cold,kids, house…. but I’m a little sad that I can’t put on my bikini and go sit at the beach for one more day. Oh well. The smiles and giggles of seeing our kids after a week warmed my heart, even if there has been a bit of crying and yelling too. And today the snow has stopped blowing and the trees look nice. I put on the Christmas music to put me in the mood and am cleaning  the house so we can decorate. Christmas does have a way of rejuvenating me, there are many things about it I like, so that will be good to focus on. Since the kids are home because school has been cancelled for two days I thought today Christmas decorating should be fun, unfortunately the christmas tree is in a shed across the yard which is drifted thigh high… so the tree might have to wait. 

It’s funny, when we were leaving Mexico all the resorts were decorating for Christmas in a very festive style, and I thought how strange it was to see fake trees decorated and Palm Trees with Christmas bells hanging from them with beaches in the back ground while the sun shines brightly. Christmas means snow to me, well I got snow didn’t I??? lol. Although I could do with out it being 30below.

Last week was wonderful in the sun and this week in the cold will be busy preparing for Christmas. Talk about Temperature changes…

Routine

I hate routine. That’s right it’s just not my thing. Routine bores me and makes me feel trapped. That’s why I really like being a Doula(it’s never the same)and dancing, and zumba, and sewing, because you always can try something different or new.

You know who likes routine???…. Kids, specifically MY kids. They don’t just like it, they NEED it.  My oldest almost can’t function without it. She’s getting so bad I’m starting to call her Sheldon at the dinner table. Her world falls apart if she can not sit in HER spot. Good grief. LOL

Now not all routine is bad. In fact I am sure I could benefit by taking a page out of their book in my fitness routine for example, but some days as a Mom, routine gets so tiring and starts to wear on your nerves. The toast cut just right, the drink before bed, the door closed just to the right spot, etc. But the ultimate routine pet peeve of mine, is that my kids feel the need to remind me every time of these time honored  traditions. Like I’ll forget after everynight for 8 years to turn the hall light on.(Insert eye rolling here) But kids in general just need that reassurance….. Mom will you turn on the Hall light??? (Panic in voice)…..Yes dear I will (semi-annoyed tone)…… Okay(Very relieved). I just shake my head and laugh. You know one day I’ll miss that senario. Tonight, Not so much.

 

 

Keep it Simple

We’ve all heard our parents or maybe our grandparents tell us about the good ole days. A time when things were simpler and people more friendly. Perhaps as teenagers, like I know I did, we rolled our eyes at them and thought crazy ole people, don’t they see how far we’ve come? The advancements that have made our lives better, faster and more efficient? Maybe we still rolled our eyes at them in our 20’s, because look at all the amazing things that have even happened just in the last two decades. Internet, email, touch screen, smart phones, smart TV’s, Hybrid cars, medical advancements in treatments, surgical advancements, social media, and all the like. The ability to access and publish information quickly to a large portion of people. And now as a parent and only since then do I see things in a different light. All of these things have their benefits for sure, but I think there is something to be said for keeping it simple, less is more, and simple pleasures, especially when it comes to the pressure these things place on us.

I’m talking about the pressure to know things, to be informed, to share, to do the “right” things, wear the “right” things, say the “right” things and be with the “right” people. Again all of these can be good sometimes too, like knowing what your buying, or what options are available, but with all things, too much of a good thing can be bad. I’m sure we could all write a blog about how too much TV or Video games is bad, but today I want to focus in on a different issue I see that keeps recurring.

With internet and social media, parents have access to information like never before. Parenting sites, blogs, pages, support groups and research information is everywhere. We are constantly bombarded with articles, letters and posts on parenting.  Again good in moderation, but how do all those articles we read and posts we see about parenting make us feel?

More and more often I am reading encouraging blogs about not worrying if your not a perfect parent or a perfect mom. Articles about enjoying the simple things in life, or letting your kids have more independence and saying no to attachment parenting. And the scary part….. we need to read those articles, we need to be reminded to not be so hard on ourselves. So that got me thinking…. Why do we need to be told these things?

It would seem that sometime in the last two decades something happened to the standards of parenting. Socially have we expected too much, set the bar too high, and made it our business to be in everyone else’s business? Parents are scrutinized and measured up to some kind of standard set by “THEM”. And when we don’t measure up we feel guilty. It seems now that as parents we are taking a stand and saying no to this. More and more I’m reading about being a good mom is being true to yourself and trying your best. How not to be so hard on yourself if there’s toys everywhere and your home does not look like the IKEA catalouge. A reminder that our kids wont remember the clothes we wore, or the color we dyed our hair, but the times we sat on the couch and read them a bedtime story. Those articles truly encourage and inspire me. They remind me that if we really do try our best, show respect and don’t be so quick to judge, that we don’t have anything to be guilty about, except for being human. And maybe that is what we are realizing…. that we are just that Human. We make mistakes and that’s okay. Reading these things makes me hopeful that we have not lost touch with a simpler time, and that maybe we can continue to make our world a better place for our own children’s children.

Gone are the days when Mom gave you $0.25 to go see a double feature at the theatre downtown with your brother on a Saturday and told you to not to come back till supper (True recollection from my Father-in-Law) but is organizing every minute of the day being with your child and then trying to cook, clean, dress and look perfect better? I think we are desperately searching for a happy medium right now, and we are looking for other parents who feel the same way. I know I’m not the only one out there as I have found friends who share this view. Right now I believe we are in the process of trying to learn from the past and grow in the future taking the good things from both. I think we now recognize the benefits of encouraging independence but know the importance of guidelines. I want my children to be aware that people watch everything they do and say but to also not be trapped by this. I wonder what the world is going to be like for my children in two more decades, a thought I never worried about till now. Will it truly be a better place?  Only time will tell.

This mom is going to try putting her guilt and judgement out with the trash, and set realistic expectations. Live by example and not worry if my floors are sticky. I can clean them tomorrow. I will also not try to stress about those 10lbs and remember that my kids care more about hugs then my love handles. As long as I stay healthy and keep my kids feed and healthy, clothed and happy, then the rest can follow. We need to start with the simple things which are the most important. Love, food, shelter and grow from there.

My mom who inspires me always gave me a gift for mother’s day and I think it is a really good reminder…. GOOD MOMS HAVE STICKY FLOORS, DIRTY OVENS AND HAPPY KIDS. My dad who cares about my happiness with all his heart gave me another gift that says: In this house we do real, we do loud really well. we do sorry. we do fun. we do mistakes, we do second chances. we do hugs, we do family. we do love…… So my parents really get it. They know what its like. And these pictures and sayings are out there to purchase, so that tells me deep down our whole society believes it too and we want to bring it back to the forefront. We want to live it daily and for that I am glad.

Cheers to all the moms and dads out there who are trying to keep it real and simple. Be proud, Do your best, Learn from your mistakes and let your kids be kids, so in turn they can do the same.

 

Super September

Well so far it’s been a SUPER start to September and tomorrow marks the 1st Anniversary of my Blog!!!! Really? Already? Wow!  A pat on the back for me! I may have not got as many posts in as I wanted to, but it is really nice to have a place to journal and share some of our silly little life.

So lets see…. what has made September so SUPER so far.

1. Kids are back in School. And yes we had an amazing summer, but I was glad to see routine back into our lives.

2. I signed Caitlin up for Gymnastics which she is really excited about.

3. Deanna made it to the second stage of her appliance. So we now have fewer trips to the dentist and the improvements have been positive.

4. I was blessed to be part of another beautiful birth of a first baby and witness also the birth of a family.

5. My girlfriend asked me to come on a totally last minute get away to LasVEGAS!!! to celebrate her birthday. And even though it rained almost everyday we were there (lol) we made the best of it, and as I browsed the pictures tonight they brought a smile to my face. Thank you so much for those wonderful memories my friend!!!  I’d do it all over again.

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6. The anniversary of my blog. I didn’t realize it till I sat down to write this post, but then I was really excited. I hope to grow in my writing more over the years. Sometimes inspiration hits me and I can write something really deep, other times it’s just a quick post to update my craziness.

So thank you all of you for following and reading my blog, for sharing my moments and memories, and for not boooo-ing me offline… hehehe. 

Super September, lets keep up the good work. Lets keep the momentum going as we push forward into harvest on the farm and head into what I call birthday season….If you don’t remember check out my early blog.. Autumn Arrives…. My husbands birthday kicks off a series of 9 birthdays in the last months of the year.

 

Soakin’ up the Sunshine.

Well August is flying by and as I look at my calendar I see we are on the count down till school again. Boy that was really fast! But there is still at least two weeks left of summer, and so I know me and my kids are going to soak in as much sunshine as we can. Summer Sun I’m not ready for you to fade away yet. Winter in Alberta is too long. I really hope we don’t even get snow till Christmas.

But I’m not going to worry about that for at least another two weeks, because it’s still summer, Thank Goodness.

Summer List

Well its the middle of July. The kids have officially been out of school for two weeks, we’ve had our first camping trip and the weather is finally starting to give us summer. With the summer months in the country being such a short period, only 8 weeks with no school and half decent weather, I like to try to make the best of it.

Last summer I was home with all three of my kids full time, and wanted to make the most of it. I wanted my girls to think of summer as a fun time that they spend with their family. And it’s important to me that this endeavor doesn’t cost a small fortune. So what do you do with three kids, a small budget and the sunshine? So I started a list of all the places, splash-parks, friends and family I want to visit and made it my goal to cross off as many things on the list as I could. You know I found a lot of great little places within driving distance of home that filled all my needs. Fun, Sun, Cheap and Neat.

This past weekend I started my Summer List 2013. And it feels great. It gives me something to work toward, and I know the kids will have a good time this summer. Even on a day as simple as visiting a friend at a playground. They will remember the fun summer time brought. And I know as the years go by and the kids get older the list will change. They will have things they will want to do, their own friends to visit and places they want to see, and that’s just fine. I hope the over the years the Summer List will always include simple family fun.

What do you have planned for summer??

All over the place.

It sure seems like lately that my eyes, ears and mind are in a million places at once. I am constantly watching, listening and thinking about what my kids are doing at this moment. It must just be the stage my kids are at right now. 

The house gets really quiet….. quick where’s Conner? What is he into now. Oh it’s okay, he’s just playing with a roll of toilet paper in the bathroom.DOH! Mom I can’t get the lamp to work, my toy needs new batteries,Watch me Mom, Mom, Mommy…..

I  hear myself say…. I’ll be right there….. so much I think it is my motto. In a minute, Just a second, Hold on a moment, I’ll help you as soon as I can. These phrases come out of my mouth so much my head is starting to spin. Huh I really do sound like a broken record.

It seems like life is so busy right now, but I’m really not sure why. We aren’t doing any soccer or ball, or swimming or music lessons, I don’t work outside the home, I’m not a gardener ( I leave that to my sister-in-Law) so why do I feel so crazy????

Could it be that my newly walking son is into EVERYTHING the second I turn my back… I think so. He “helps” with the groceries and laundry and “organizing” my DVD’s. Plus my four year old wants to show me everything she can do now that she’s a big girl. And she wants to do the same things her older sister does, even if she is a bit too little. She recently decided to go for a “run” with me…. which I agreed to because hey it’s cute she wants to do what I’m doing. Boy I’ve never run on the spot so much outside of a gym. LOL. Her ten seconds of running made for a very nice leisurely stroll for me.

Ahhh yes the sacrifices we make for our family. Seems like this is the most time I’ve had to myself in a month and I really haven’t done a million things this month, at least I don’t think I have…. Oh my.

 

May Madness….

Well I can’t believe it’s the last day of May already. For our family May had been very busy both with the kids and on the Farm.

We started out the month with a few really nice days, and right away my husband was anxious to get into the field to seed, but first we had a little celebrating to do. My baby boy turned One at the beginning of May and we had a great family dinner then a beautiful afternoon in the park complete with Farm themed cake and cupcakes. I still can’t believe my baby is one years old. His birthday was a special day and he was surrounded by love which is a beautiful thing. When there are days I am feeling blue, these are the moments I need to recall; pushing the kids on the swings in the sunshine and sitting on the living room floor sharing in the giggles of a new toy.

So after his birthday the month just seemed to fly by. When the clouds would part and the sun would come out my husband disappeared into the tractor to seed barley and canola. And when he wasn’t fixing equipment there were cows to look after and fence to fix. Even though the rain slows his progress, I welcome it somedays, cause it’s the only time in spring I get to see him.

On occasion my girlfriend and I would get a run in as well, which feels really good, but I am surprised how hard it was in May to fit in just a hour a week of fitness. I think I finally have a few babysitters at my disposal now so I can be organized to get ready for the two mud runs I’ve registered for this fall. AHHHHHHHH. What am I thinking??? I’m not a runner. But I hear its great for getting a flat tummy, so sign me up baby.. LOl.

This month I also had the honour of joining a couple as a Doula for the birth of their baby girl. We also had; Playschool Field trip and Graduation for my middle Daughter, A Doula Training workshop, Hypnobabies Course which was truly amazing information, My sister-in-law planting the garden, yard work, the trampoline out, a trip to Leduc, dealing with Deanna’s dental appliance(Which is a whole other blog post)  and my son gaining his confidence in walking. Oh yes, he is walking around the house so I know he’s officially not a baby anymore, but more a toddler now.

My oh my, no wonder I felt a little silly some days, it was truly a busy month in our house. And as June begins, I look forward to a wonderful summer with friends, new babies(even a cousin for our kids, WOOT WOOT) Camping, more running and workouts and just soaking up the sunshine. Maybe a few days of sprinkler fun and swimming pools when all the kids are here. I think I would be even happier if I could get some painting projects and reno projects done too.

I hope as you look ahead into June, July and August you see Sun and Fun too.

Spring start.

Well hello, I know it’s been quite a while since I’ve posted anything, but I’m happy to be writing today. I had taken a short break, because quite frankly, I couldn’t think of anything good to write about. The weather had me in a funk. But in the last week, spring has finally arrived, and the green grass I have been longing to see is here.
I never used to think the seasons could affect my mood, but after six months of winter in Alberta, I needed some sunshine to rejuvenate my soul. I needed warmer weather for the kids, so they could play outside, and finally it is here.
It’s funny how I understand now why my mom always talked about spring being like a re-birth. This spring I truly feel it. I feel refreshed, excited and eager. Ready to set some new goals and enjoy what is in store for me.
With the help of a friend ( or two) I am working towards running 5km in a few different fun runs. It is the start of something great, and training with a friend is the only way to go. Plus getting up and being physically active does wonders for your self-esteem. I feel better knowing I’m healthier. I’m also enjoying Zumba as it feeds my passion for dance and burns calories at the same time!
Another goal, that I see coming closer into view is my doula certification. I’m currently on call for a client with more this summer, and I hope when the summer is over I will have the experience I need to do the reports and send away my certification package. What a good feeling that would be.
All around there are lots of good feelings at our house. The cows have calves, the grass is green, my baby took his first steps, Deanna grows taller, Caitlin is getting more independent, and I can sit back and soak it all in, plus some much needed sunshine. Thank you spring for a fresh start.

Spoiled!!

Written Feb 21

So usually I am talking about how spoiled my children are. As they are currently the only nieces and nephews in our family and both sets of grandparents live close by, I’d say they are pretty spoiled. Toys, gifts, clothes, ice cream, chips, chocolate milk, teddy bears, all thanks to the Uncles, Aunts, and Grandparents in their lives. But today I was the spoiled one. Today my husband hooked up our new Frigidaire gas stove and fridge! HOLY CRAP! Lucky me! Actually lucky us.

Dean grew up with a gas stove, and ever since we got married he has been talking about how some day we will get a gas stove. Today we hooked it up and turned it on for the first time. Very Cool, but since I grew up with electric, it will take a little while for me to get used to a gas stove, or so they say. Apparently gas is WAY superior to cook with. I guess I’ll find out. But tonight I’m still a little afraid, so I’m not sure what we will have for supper……. maybe Kraft Dinner….LOL. Hey I may be spoiled, but not too spoiled I cant enjoy good ole KD.